Power through your worst days so you can enjoy the good ones with this "fight or flight" manual for life (the fake one you live on the internet and the one you actually live).
“I’m not here asking you to fix yourself. There’s nothing wrong with you, okay? I know that how my day goes depends on whether I wake up full of hope or despair. It’s not about what’s happening, it’s about my relationship to what’s happening, you know?” –Grace Miceli, from How to Deal
Dealing with ourselves requires . . . a lot. On the good days, it takes patience and humor; on the bad, it can devolve into online shopping sprees, over-analyzing the punctuation from every text message you receive or baking 4 dozen cookies—for ourselves.
In this relatable and hilarious collection of comic strips, modern day motivational posters, and illustrated lists and diary entries, illustrator Grace Miceli explores how our comfort zones may be a trap, how to stay when you want to run away, and where to find light when everything feels dark—beyond the glow of your phone.
This sharply observed book is a "fight or flight" manual for life (the fake one you live on the internet and the one you actually live), a weird but honest road map from a friend who wants to make it just that much easier for you to navigate your own journey.
About the Author
Grace Miceli (aka @artbabygirl) is one of the "9 Funniest Cartoonists and Illustrators on Instagram" (Vulture). Her artwork has been featured in more than fifty galleries and museums worldwide; she has created work for The New Yorker, The New York Times, Apple TV, Urban Outfitters and Nike, and has been covered by Vogue, i-D, Dazed, CNN, and more. Grace lives in Brooklyn, NY.
How To Deal knows exactly what you’re feeling and trying to suppress. Grace Miceli works her magic, and makes looking at your most painful thoughts not so painful. This book will hold your hand while you process.—Jordan Sondler, author of Feel It Out
Have you ever felt truly seen by a can of insect repellent or a frozen pizza? Grace Miceli's inner monologue is colorful and nostalgic in a way that is both beautifully subtle and urgently not. This book should be corny – in the way that human emotion packaged for consumption often is – but there's something so true about the whole thing that you often find yourself just grateful someone else said it. Like wandering the aisles of a grocery store because you just didn't know what else to do with yourself, How to Deal is unexpected, not impractical, and weirdly comforting.—Adam J. Kurtz, artist and author of Things Are What You Make of Them
This book feels like a conversation with someone whose wisdom sometimes seems otherworldly, and at the same time, it's like chatting with your best friend. It made me laugh until my belly hurt, it made me shout every three minutes "Yes, this is me, I feel seen", and it made me say THANK YOU. Grace's art and illustrations are amazing and make us all fall in love because they carry that magic of making what is really hard look easy, but for me, the best thing about this book is what lies behind the text: companionship, understanding, and the absolute freedom of knowing that I DON'T HAVE TO BE OK ALL THE TIME AND THAT'S OK.—Amalia Andrade, author of Things You Think About When You Bite Your Nails
Grace Miceli uses a playful color palette, charming illustrations, and just the right amount of thoughtful text to get us comfortable with confronting the uncomfortable and uncontrollable aspects of life. How To Deal does exactly what I want to do as an artist, only better than I ever could: it helps us feel less alone as we wade through the beautiful mess called life.—Carissa Potter Carlson, artist and author of It's OK to Feel Things Deeply
This book made me chuckle and nod vigorously in agreement. It is witty and clever in the way it opens up about mental struggles. The colourful doodle-like images contain so much life and insightful advice...I would definitely recommend this book for anyone looking to brighten their day.—Bookriot
Illustrator Grace Miceli has created a funny and beautifully illustrated manual to help readers deal with life's day-to-day stressors. How to Deal mixes hilarious comic strips with real-life diary entries from the author in order to offer up insight on how to handle fear, failure, and everything in between with an open heart and a sense of humor.—Popsugar